LISTEN ON ITUNES
LISTEN ON ITUNES
In this episode I get to spend some time with my friend Jess Connolly as she shares the story of her miscarriage. Listen in as Jess gives invaluable wisdom about loss and grief. She shares with us the most helpful advice she was given after her miscarriage, that came her mom; advice that I wish every woman could hear and allow to inform the way in which they grieve. We talk about the dichotomy of fear and joy that co-exist when a woman who has experienced miscarriage gets pregnant again. We talk about what it looks like to give your spouse the space to grieve and we even talk about the enneagram.*
Jess also shares one of the most tender and encouraging visual images that will remind an aching heart that though there may be death in our physical bodies, God is still growing something good in the spiritual. We talk about the value of saying out loud the fears or insecurities or lies we are believing about our grief and the importance of finding a safe place to say those things.
If you are need of a safe place to voice those things, come join us at The Joyful Mourning Community — created to be that very thing, a safe place where you can feel known and understood in your grief. A place where other women who understand what you are going through can remind you that there is no shame in the way you are processing your grief. To join the The Joyful Mourning community simply click here.
*The Enneagram in it’s simplest form is a personality typing tool but is best used as an empathy tool. A way to know and understand yourself while simultaneously knowing and understanding those around you, in order to better love them and the God that made them (and you.) A great tool to start investigating the Enneagram and how helpful it can be, is The Road Back to You by Ian Chron. I think having a better understanding of the way God has uniquely created you will help you to better process your grief and this tool could be useful in that effort.
Favorite Moments from Episode 027
9:30- “Things are still growing and there will be life in the spiritual even though there is death in the physical.”
13 – “God can be moving and we can be really sad. Those things are not mutually exclusive.”
14 – “When the due date comes, let God meet you in that. Feel it. And let God meet you in that.”
21:50 / 22 – “I thought: ‘I am too sad or I am not sad enough.’”
29: – Invite other people into that. Go to someone who is safe ….
29:30 – I felt like she had weathered them so much better than I did. “I feel broken because I’m so much more sad.”
33: – what helped and what healed and what drew me closer to God is walking through it
44:52 – hold on
Jess Connolly wants to leave her generation more in awe of God than she found it. She’s a mother to four, wife to her favorite pastor, author, Bible teacher, and entrepreneur. She’s the cofounder of Bright City Church, the co-owner of All Good Things Collective, and the author of a handful of books including Wild and Free, Dance Stand Run, and Always Enough + Never Too Much.
You can learn more about Jess and all the good she is doing at http://www.jessconnolly.com and follow along on Instagram: jessaconnolly.