Happy Birthday Aaden

Episode 55

You’re listening to The Joyful Mourning Podcast Episode #55. In this episode I have the privilege of interviewing Sarah Garvey, a woman who has experienced an incredible amount of loss and yet she communicates in a way that is full of hope and joy and wisdom. Sarah experienced infertility, three miscarriages, and the premature birth and death of her triplets.

Her experience with loss and trauma has led her to a career serving as a bereavement expert. And her expertise is incredibly evident in this episode. She gives cautions and advice and wisdom that will be practically helpful to those in the middle of grief and for those who love someone grieving.

Sarah spends some time talking about the uniqueness of grief and how we all grieve differently, even those grieving the same loss, such as a husband and a wife — and why it’s dangerous to think that we grieve the same.

We talk about the physical aspects of grief and we talk about grief and faith. Sarah says: “grieving with faith is difficult, but grieving without faith feels impossible.”

And like I said she gives SUCH great and helpful wisdom to those who love a grieving a mom, she says this to you: “You are valuable and your support is important and necessary and it’s ok for you to not know what to do or say. Just do your best.”

This episode is full of wisdom from a bereavement expert, but more than even that — from a mom who has been there. A mom who has walk a similar journey to the one you are walking today and I am sure that her story and her heart and her encouragement will remind you that you are not alone in this and all the things you are feeling and thinking and experiencing are normal. As Sarah says in this episode, “You aren’t crazy. You’re grieving.”


And lastly, if you feel alone in this journey, I want to remind you about The Joyful Mourning Community – a free online community where you can find other women walking a similar path. Women who offer a safe place to talk and feel known and understand; women who will pray for you and offer gentle wisdom when you need it. If that sounds like something you need, come join our community. Click the button below for all the details on how to join. We would love to have you join us and I can’t wait to see you there. 

Meet Sarah

After experiencing infertility, three miscarriages, the premature birth and death of her triplets, and the premature birth and neonatal intensive care unit stay for her now nearly four year old daughter, Sarah Garvey became a passionate advocate for other parents experiencing perinatal trauma.

In the years since her losses, Sarah has dedicated her career to serving as a bereavement and trauma-informed communication expert, providing support to doctors, hospital systems, nonprofits, and counseling centers. Sarah is now a graduate student at The University of Texas at Austin where she is studying public leadership and strategic communication.

Read more of Sarah’s story here: Sarah’s Story or via Instagram.

You can also listen to Sarah’s entire story on this podcast.

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