i am so grateful for you.

Loving someone who has lost a baby is so hard. Knowing what to say and what to do can feel overwhelming, impossible even.

know this: the best thing you can do is show up.

She isn’t expecting perfection. She isn’t expecting you to fix this. She knows you can’t. She just needs her friends and her family to remind her that she’s loved and it’s ok for her to grieve in the way that feels right to her. And that her baby is not forgotten.

This can be through a phone call, a simple text, a meaningful gift. A hug or a glass of wine. A walk or a binge-watching session of your favorite netflix show.

This means being brave enough to ask her how she’s really doing and then asking again tomorrow. This means not forgetting those days that are especially hard (hint: the first year after loss is the worst, write down the dates in your calendar and just acknowledge her on that day. When the rest of the world has seemingly forgotten her, she will be reminded that you have not.) This means not being afraid when she says things that feel hard. This means praying for her. Often. This means showing up, in person with coffee or chocolate or wine or all of the above.

Being the friend to someone who is grieving is a sacrificial role. She won’t have the capacity to love you back in the way you deserve right now, so much of this time will look like a lot of give. And sometimes she won’t even say thank you.

know this: she will be forever grateful. even if she never says it out loud. i promise.

Your job looks something like this:

But Moses' hands grew weary, so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it, while Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side. So his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. Exodus 17:12

You are holding her arms up as she fights. She can’t do this without you.

P.S. If you haven’t already done so, make sure to download our free guide: 10 Ways to Love a Grieving Friend. It’s the practical, tangible answers to the question “how do I love my friend”? Download here.

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for women finding joy after miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss.

who is the morning for?

The Morning is for anyone who is walking through grief after experiencing the loss of a baby. For women who has experienced early pregnancy loss, late pregnancy loss, stillbirth, premature birth, ectopic pregnancy, a life-limiting diagnosis for your baby or infant loss by some other means, this place is for you.

The Morning is also for those who are walking alongside a woman who has experienced the loss of a baby.

For all those who have ever asked the question: How do I help my grieving friend?

Our desire at The Morning is to come alongside those in support roles by providing resources that will help you help her.

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