Understanding Grief After the Death of a Baby | Episode 155 with Libby Marler, The Counseling Collective [Replay]


Episode 155

This episode originally aired almost 2 years ago but it is such a fantastic resource that we wanted to put it in front of you again. If you have experienced the loss of a baby or know and love someone who has experienced the loss of a baby this episode is an absolute must-listen. Libby Marler (of The Counseling Collective) is my guest in this interview; she is a trained counselor who specializes in women’s issues including maternal mental health, parenting, grief and loss, as well as anxiety issues. Libby became passionate about providing counseling and support for women after she navigated the death of her own daughter due to a life-limiting diagnosis. 

In this episode Libby shares with us a general overview of what someone who has experienced the loss of a baby can expect in regards to grief. For many of us, the loss of our baby was the first time we have experienced a significant loss close to us, we are unfamiliar with the grieving process and we are trying to discern what’s normal, what isn’t, what is expected of us, when should we seek outside help – basically all the things and in this episode Libby breaks it all down for us. She shares invaluable expertise regarding baby loss and grief, including helpful steps to take to process through your grief in a way that is not burdensome or weighty but instead, very freeing. 

If you have ever wondered if what you are feeling and thinking amidst grief is normal or if you have ever asked yourself ‘am I showing enough emotion? Am I showing too much emotion?’ or ‘shouldn’t I be farther along by now?” This episode is for you. Libby offers wisdom that I am sure will bring you hope in your grief today.

I created a helpful guide called Understanding Grief to go along this episode that breaks down much of what Libby talked about in today’s episode. This guide includes an explanation of bereavement trauma, aspects of trauma in regards to baby loss, what are normal feelings of grief, what are normal physical responses to grief, ways to process your loss, thoughts about when to seek professional help and several helpful journal prompts. I think this guide will be incredibly helpful to you in your grief journey. 

understanding grief

A SIMPLE RESOURCE THAT WILL HELP YOU UNDERSTAND THE GRIEF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING, LEARN WHAT IS NORMAL IN GRIEF, LEARN HEALTHY WAYS TO PROCESS YOUR GRIEF AND BEGIN HEALING.



Questions We Discuss During This Episode

  • What is Traumatic Bereavement

  • Is Traumatic Bereavement applicable to all types of baby loss, such as an early miscarriage or stillbirth, a life-limiting diagnosis or infant loss? 

  • What are some of the aspects of trauma when the death of a baby occurs?

  • What are normal and common feelings of grief? 

  • What is normal in grief; what can a grieving woman expect after the loss of a baby in regards to her emotions?

  • What steps would you encourage a grieving mom to take in order to process her grief?

  • What are some signs that professional help should be considered?

  • What is grief and what is something more?

  • How would you recommend a mom listening seek out professional help?


MEET Libby

Hi, I’m Libby!

After personally navigating the death of my daughter due to a life-limiting diagnosis, I became passionate about providing counseling and support for women who are experiencing big life transitions, particularly the unique and difficult challenges of transitioning to motherhood. I specialize in women’s issues including maternal mental health, parenting, grief and loss, as well as anxiety issues. I also counsel teenage girls who struggling with various life issues.

Get connected with Libby at The Counseling Collective.


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